So....do you recommend others become unpaid carers?.....

That was a question someone asked me the other day. I had to stop and think. The years I have been doing it....being an unpaid carer for loved ones...a caregiver, they trendily call it....I didn't think about recommending it to anyone. It is just something you do isn't it? It is sort of a choice that you make but because you feel you want to do it and the alternatives aren't suitable for the people you love. Anyway, I stopped. Then I thought....yes, your life is changed dramatically. Nothing is ever the same again. You have worries and concerns. You think, boy life is different. And you wish that it was simple again. You sit in the park and feel envious of people who wander round without a care in the world. You see people going out on Saturday night, getting sloshed and wondering why the heck you aren't doing the same. But then I stopped again. I see, feel, know, sense miracles every day. I can't say it's one big fuzzy feeling. It is really about those little miracles each moment. Someone saying something that touches your heart. Someone doing something that is considerate and kind - when you thought everyone had forgotten about you. Or a little kindness when someone holds a door open as you push someone through it in the wheelchair. In the end, the little miracles add up...they accumulate and they become something to feel, to remember and hold onto when something challenging comes up. It's all so bloody sentimental but when I hear someone say, do you recommend becoming an unpaid carer, you stop. I will be honest but I will probably say the most positive thing I can.